Tag: encouragement

WHY IT’S TIME TO CHANGE THE JOB

Just recently l was in conversation with someone that had been working in the same organisation for 15 years, and had been offered a new job in another. He mentioned the reason for the change was that ‘it was time to change the job’, and that he was ‘no longer enjoying the role’. I was delighted for him as the move would have meant a change for him, his family, friends and even his colleagues.

HOW DO YOU KNOW WHEN IT’S TIME TO CHANGE YOUR JOB?

You know when you have outgrown your job because you are at the point of moaning and complaining continuously about it. The drive and enthusiasm is no longer there. Whilst you continue to moan about it, that negative energy affects your family and friends, irritates your colleagues as they too are tired of hearing you whining. It may get to the stage where your colleagues either try as much as possible to avoid conversations to do with work, or find ways of totally blocking out your continuous whining. What constant whiners do is to try to make you feel their frustration, in the hope that you will help them in doing something about it. We all have to tend to our own overgrown lawns eventually, only that some of us may not be quite ready yet, so therefore able to put-up with it a lot longer. It is time for change!

WHEN THE WHINING CONTINUES

Then you get home and the whining continues. Your complaining about the job, your colleagues, the travelling, how stressed you are. You may not even realise that you are constantly complaining about anything and everything. When we are unhappy it is those that are closest to us that bear the brunt of our frustration. You get easily irritated, angry, sulking, short tempered. This is all about your dissatisfaction and not anyone else’s. It’s time for change!

WHEN THE ‘SELL-BY-DATE’ HAS EXPIRED

When you have exceeded your ‘sell-by-date’. Somewhere during the time, you took the job until now, you probably set yourself some personal goals and targets to meet. One of them may have been to only stay for a period of time. You have now exceeded that period, you are still there, and worse still no longer enjoying it. It is time for change!

WHAT’S IN IT FOR ME?

When the question ‘what’s in it for me’ mind-set arises – it is time for change. When you initially started the job you had an enthused mind-set – one that was eager to learn etc. The ‘what’s in it for me’ attitude has developed because the role no longer fits or serves your needs – you have outgrown a job that once appealed to you. When you are given tasks to complete you may find yourself scrutinising it to find out ‘what’s in it for you’. If there is nothing there any longer for you, there may well be for someone else in the role. It is time for change!

‘SHRINKING TO FIT’

When you are ‘shrinking to fit’ in your career, you are likely to be ‘shrinking’ in other aspects of your life too. We all have to make adaptations in our lives that enables growth, otherwise, we become static or feel trapped. The stimulus related to the job is now dissipated. If there are no other opportunities within the organisation, it is those that are brave enough that will make the change and leave. It’s time for change!

Change is an individual choice which when prolonged will inevitably affect other aspects of your life. Change is a positive development pushing you beyond your ‘comfort zone’.

So you can now understand the depth of my enthusiasm that he had got a new job.

 

CLEANING UP YOUR ACT

Just as we frequently clean up our homes, we also need to clean up our lives.  There are times we really need to get rid of stuff that no longer serves us – and be unafraid to let go. You may find all sorts of reasons or excuses not to do this, and continue in allowing your internal dialogue to keep that very tight hold over you.  

Cleaning up our homes is physical, whilst cleaning up our lives is spiritual.  Cleaning up our lives spiritually is far deeper, as it is cleaning up our hearts – the lies, the hate, the envy, the rivalry, the pain – those bad thoughts about others.  Cleaning out those very things that clogs up our hearts, preventing us from progressing. You have to make it important enough for your mental, emotional and physical well-being. It makes no essence in fussing about your home, when yet your heart is filled with clutter. 

When things begin to hinder our lives, we need to consider decluttering our homes as well as our lives – in cleaning up your act.

Encouraging Growth

Sometimes things, happen which causes us to droop a little.  This does not mean that our whole being is dead.  We are still very much alive, only what has happened is that our energy is depleted in particular parts of our body, causing us to droop.

Things are not quite, as they were.  We are exhausted from the pressure of being stretched, and emotionally strained.

Eventually, we must learn to let go of whatever is bothering us, and take great strides to perk up again, or else we continue to droop, to the point that things fall apart.

Much like the tree or plant with drooping branches, you have to prune off the dead, the diseased or competing branches to allow light and growth.

HOW DO WE BREAK OUT OF BOXES, CATEGORIES, TRIBES, THEM & US?

What boxes are we actually talking about, what categories, what tribes ~ what them and us are we referring to when using such terminologies or phrase?

For most part, it is through RECOGNITION ~ in recognising through our senses, feelings, through communication, attitudes, our past experiences. These are examples of indicators or signals which trigger off the feelings of being placed in a box, categorised into tribes, colour, size, them and us.

Even our surroundings and where we live can have a bearing on the categories or box that we are being placed in. Recognising the fact that being placed in categories can be a set of opinions, feelings and beliefs of individuals or a group of people ~ a national consciousness.

So how do we break out these boxes, categories ~ the ‘them and us’ mentality?

Breaking out involves stepping into ACTION!

Taking responsibility and being aware of the sensitivity to particular issues.

Taking action involves consideration for others, being thoughtful, weighing up things.

Taking action involves acknowledging that even though we are whole, we are individual parts, diverse in culture and should appreciate the value that we can ALL bring to ‘the table’.

Remember your consciousness is also part of your perception ~ your take, your opinion, your slant, your assessment ~ which is based on your past experiences.  These experiences can be either good or bad depending on what good or bad means to you. These experiences are a form of encouragement for growth as a person, and not as an unchallenged hindrance.

In time those past experience will fade from your consciousness.

Breaking out involves being aware of YOUR thoughts, YOUR beliefs, or emotional bond to these beliefs.

Difficulties often arise in trying to develop relationships with others whilst not having developed a SINCERE and LASTING friendship with your-SELF first ~ Olive Guillais-Lazure