Tag: lifeskills

CLEANING UP YOUR ACT

Just as we frequently clean up our homes, we also need to clean up our lives.  There are times we really need to get rid of stuff that no longer serves us – and be unafraid to let go. You may find all sorts of reasons or excuses not to do this, and continue in allowing your internal dialogue to keep that very tight hold over you.  

Cleaning up our homes is physical, whilst cleaning up our lives is spiritual.  Cleaning up our lives spiritually is far deeper, as it is cleaning up our hearts – the lies, the hate, the envy, the rivalry, the pain – those bad thoughts about others.  Cleaning out those very things that clogs up our hearts, preventing us from progressing. You have to make it important enough for your mental, emotional and physical well-being. It makes no essence in fussing about your home, when yet your heart is filled with clutter. 

When things begin to hinder our lives, we need to consider decluttering our homes as well as our lives – in cleaning up your act.

RUN YOUR OWN RACE

Most competitive runners have been taught to ‘run their own race.’ This means having a strategy or plan which involves not allowing other runners to dictate their pace.

On the other hand, there are also those non-athletes we are aware of, who continually allow others to dictate their pace of life. They are too afraid to run their own race, worried about what others might think or say. Some are in constant need of validation, comparing and competing with others. They are more focused on what others are doing. Find out what makes you unique, concentrate, and run your own race. If you can’t run, then walk! Also, whilst you are doing this – stay in your own lane.

Whilst running your own race, you also need to find your own rhythm and steady pace. Distractions occur when you are not running your own race. Remember nothing good happens when you are continually comparing and competing with others. You may find yourself losing pace, and eventually unable to keep up anyway! Being outrun by the faster and more focused runners who are ‘doing their thing’, and undeterred by you. Running your own race means focusing on you, and doing your absolute best each time. Someone else’s achievement is about them, and has nothing to do with you. 

Do not forget that your greatest support shall always come from your inner guide. Stay focused on your race, and watch and listen out for signs that tells you which path to follow. All you need to do is to trust, and allow your inner guide to be your strength and source. Your inner guide will encourage you to run your own race, to keep on  going and moving forwards, until you eventually across that finishing line.

Olive’s LiveTalk: Thoughts for the Season

In Community talk.We each need to remember that Christmas is not solely a time for giving, as this should be demonstrated daily, giving and sharing love from the heart and not only from the pocket, because you feel compelled to.

Parents do not spoil your children because other parents are doing it to the extent that Christmas loses its values even more.  If you cannot afford certain things, start explaining to the children why, so they grow up with much more understanding.   There is absolutely no need to put yourself under pressure in trying to keep up with others.  We need to start teaching our children to place much more worth on what is important, and less on what is not.

For most, Christmas is a time to spend with the family (which can be anyone by the way), from your relations, friends, neighbour, kinsmen or women.

There are so many reasons, why for some of us Christmas may not be a ‘Merry’ time. Some may have lost their jobs, divorced, death of a loved one, separation, loneliness, illness, atheists, depression, etc.  Just because you are feeling all the ‘Merriment’ does not mean others are too.  We should respect that.

We should never be made to feel, less valued because of the pressures that the media alike have put upon us because of Christmas.  We should start to take control of our lives, and not be dictated on Christmas being the time to buy lots of presents just for that day, thus missing the real meaning of the Christian event.

Some of us believe in the phenomenon of caring and sharing daily in our lives, and see it as being hypocritical when caring and sharing is demonstrated only at Christmas, then soon afterwards return to our usual turning a ‘blind eye’ and ‘not by responsibility’ syndrome.

Spend wisely and caringly, though remembering that giving and sharing is a daily occurrence and not reserved for the 25 December only.

What does this festive period mean to you? Do you feel so saddened by it all that you do not celebrate it? Is it a time for reflection?

If you don’t take charge someone else will!

Most recently I have seen pictures on the internet, where women and men have lost their own leadership positions, and have allowed others to take over their lives.

Those groups of LEADERS, have manipulated their followers in situations that are advantageous solely to them.  In some cases it is reasonable to say, that they have dehumanised their followers by controlling them in what is openly ‘stage managed’.  To the extent of making them believe, that what they are doing is natural, when in fact, it is not, it is managed. Stage managed!

These very groups of Leaders are being allowed by their followers, to lose their dignity, their individuality, the qualities or features that make each one of us uniquely interesting and not ‘dull’.

When you take a LEADERSHIP position in your life, you have the ability to stop a situation, make a decision about whether or not something should happen.

We each have the power to heal and change a situation.